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Monday, August 16, 2010

One year since I became single

This month marks the one year anniversary of my ex-husband and I splitting up. There have been a lot of tough times during this first year, but all in all, I think the kids and I have come out better on the other side. I decided to list the top three ways that our lives have improved since the divorce, so here they are!

When my husband lived with us, the family only had one car. He pretty much had the car all of the time, so the kids and I were constantly just stuck in the house! I mean, we could walk around the neighborhood, but that was about it. He also never wanted any of us to have any friends, or to go anywhere without him. Since he left, the kids and I go to events at their school, to movies we want to see, we've joined a church and made lots of friends, we eat what we want for dinner, we can go visit my parents in Florida, we can have friends over for dinner...etc. It's wonderful, not having to deal with a huge fight everytime I want to go somewhere or make a friend.

It really builds my confidence in myself that I've gotten through this first year, and even improved a few things! There have been a few hitches, but I definitely see an overall trend of improvement. The kids and I spend more time playing games together, we cook dinner together, and I think we're all happier together in general. My ex was not an easy man to live with, so him being gone means less day to day stress. The kids miss their dad in some ways, but my oldest daughter especially acts much less tense and nervous when he's not here. She told me the other day that I smile a lot more than I used to.

My ex was a REAL downer, because he's a very negative person. He never wanted the kids and I to decorate for holidays, or plant a garden, or go to the zoo, or do anything. Whenever we DID do something he didn't like, he would become very critical. Now the kids and I do all sorts of fun things, and everything is so much more enjoyable without his constant complaining! I'm really looking forward to Thanksgiving this year, because my mom is making all of us Fall themed dresses and I plan to decorate my whole house and cook a spectacular feast!


Linda said...

My thoughts were: Free at last. Thank God, I am free at last. I truly understand from experience what you feel. Good luck on many more years of happiness. No one deserves to live in isolation and in fear of self-expression. Your children will not learn to live in culture of fearfulness. Good luck.Smile until your face breaks. It will be good for the children! You taught your daughter not to endure what you did.

Mary said...

You absolutely made the right choice in splitting up. I really believe that you will continue on an upward spiral, and your life will get better and better.

Rachel said...

Liz, you are awesome! I'm so glad to have you and your precious girls for friends. :)

Frugal Divorced Liz said...

Thanks Rachel! You guys are awesome too!<3
Are you going to Super Saturday?